Couple moments : do we have to share or just keep it between us ?

People were uploading their relationship moments on instagram,path, or any other social media. The biggest example you can check right now is the Glen Alinskie & Chelsea Olivia instagram feed, From their travels, their night-outs, and even their wedding are in their instagram profiles. They let it all out for the public, so their fans could see their love life.

For me a PDA is always acceptable. Sharing the love for the people around us is never a bad thing in my opinion, and it is a thousand times better then spreading the speech of hate, anger,etc.
Some couples that keeping their relationship so secret isn’t a bad idea either. Well i couldn’t give you an example but, so many celebs from hollywood or maybe korean stars who keeps their love life so secret that nobody knows that they’re living their happiest moment together without a public disturbance.

now the question is…

should you/i/we keep our relationship for ourselves,
should you/i/we/ let our relationship for others to see how happy can you be in a healthy relationship ?

Let’s talk about the plus minus about these 2 options we could pick. First of all, the keep-between-us-relationship. Now let’s think about positive things we could take from a private relationships shall we ? we could pick the most simple thing from it, which is you will NOT have a pressure from other individuals, such as fans, friends, family, ex (?), etc. Other than unnecessary pressure, you could also be safe from any kind of gossip, since you didn’t let many people know that you have a special relationship, you won’t get many rumours or gossips about you two.
A bonus point if somehow it ends up in marriage, people will be in kind of a shock (?) seeing your relationship successfully go to the final phase, without any publicity from any of the social media.
Now let’s talk about the PDA in social media.

for me sharing your relationship in the social media is a brave thing to do.

Everyone who have an access to your profile will see the relationship that you shared to the internet world, Your mum, your dad, your best friend, your friends, your enemies, your dogs, your evil ex, everyone. You showed that you’re currently happy with the new person that comes into your life, That you didn’t afraid to let people know that you’re now have a new relationship you can build on.
You are not afraid of failure, why ? because if your relationship fails the probability of people who knows about your relationship will notice that your love life somehow didnt go the right way, the total opposite thing that is going to happen if you let it be a privacy between you two. And that’s why i think it was a brave thing to do.
As i was saying, sharing love to others is always a thousand times better than spreading the speech of hate. and these are just 1 or 2 bits of benefits you could have, there are so many other reasons why it’s okay to let your relationship be public or private.
For me personally, i would like to stay in the middle from these 2 options, there’s black and white, yin and yang, x and y,you and me, us. Someone said to me “Sesuatu yang dipaksakan itu tidak baik” and it will never be. So, something that is too much like someone who is posting a video about yourself crying over such a simple problems and calling it a vlog, in my opinion it was not a bright thing to do. So what i’m going to do is i’ll share what people might need to know such as, anniversary, birthday, etc and let people see that i have a happy relationship.
So i think that’s all from me, for now. I don’t know when the next post will arrive but just in case… stay tune. Ciao !

Asking the questions of life.

Existential Crisis.

If you heard,  or watch the news about Shia Labeouf lately you might heard about this word. This guy is showing up on red carpet wearing a carton bag mask with words on it that says “I’m not famous anymore.” why did he do it ? and yes, he got arrested. why ? “The “Transformers” actor was led away in handcuffs from a showing of “Cabaret” at a theater at New York’s Studio 54. He was drunk and had been disruptive in the theater, police said.” Quoted from CNN. later on he (shia) said , ” “F**k you. This is f***ing bull****. Do you know my life? Do you know who the f**k I am? Do you know who I am?” after being escorted by the police out of the theatre that showed a broadway, the police stated he lit up a cigarette and yells to the stage. LaBeouf was held overnight.


The question is,
why did he do that ?


An existential crisis is a moment at which an individual questions the very foundations of their life: whether their life has any meaning, purpose or value. This issue of the meaning and purpose of existence is the topic of the philosophical school of existentialism. Lately, Shia is not one of the most first option for big time movies, for instance the last transformers main actor is Mark Wahlberg. (maybe) This is one of the problem that triggered shia to do these things. well then, let’s see Shia after he got out from jail, should we ?



“I went through like an existential crisis … I had some hiccups, some judgement errors,” He said. and then Labeouf said “I got in this [entertainment] industry because I had this void. I’m a kid of abandonment and I thought somehow being a good actor would fill that void. I think we suffer from the same thing, which is just a lack of attention and love,” See the difference ? Shia is more humble, and more down to earth in this show, wanna know why ? well,this might help.

An existential crisis may resemble anomie (a personal condition resulting from a lack of norms) or a midlife crisis. Sometimes, an existential crisis stems from a person’s new perception of life and existence. Analogously, existentialism posits that a person can and does define the meaning and purpose of his or her life, and therefore must choose to resolve the crisis of existence.

so, after he got arrested, shia probably find a new perception of life or whatever he wants to find.

Existential crisis is considered to be a direct consequence of depression, being a prevalent symptom especially among children and young adults with above-average intelligence. The issue can be addressed in the same therapeutic and medical manner as ordinary depression, and is usually curable by antidepressants.

Sounds harmful isn’t it ?




Shia is brave enough to tell the world that he had this while other people might be hiding it, In existentialist philosophy, the term ‘existential crisis’ specifically relates to the crisis of the individual when they realize that they must always define their own lives through the choices they make. The existential crisis occurs when one recognizes that even the decision to either refrain from action or withhold assent to a particular choice is, in itself, a choice. In other words, humankind is “condemned” to freedom.


Why am i writing about this ? well, i just feel i want to type this. i feel it, you know. somehow i don’t even exist in my lovely community, it just feels like i’m there, but for them… i don’t think i’m there. you get me ? yes, and i feel what shia feels, but i don’t know what shia finds after he got arrested, I’m not saying i want to get arrested. but hey, i need someone to tell me what’s going on. why am i feeling like this ? why do the worlds is so mean ? well. if you look up on the internet, there’s a how-to get out from the Existential Crisis. did it solve anything ? who knows.


Life is cruel. and that’s the fun part.