Photo by : Nick Falkner

No, not that tv shows about some dudes and chicks who got lost in a deserted island no.

I’m talking about lost in the place where you shouldn’t be.


(i hope) It’s going to be deep.



First thing first, i have to ask. do you ever feel lonely in a crowded place ? yes, i’m talking about the gorgeus photo from Nick Falkner on the above, then you might be interested about what i’m going to write today. And yes, i almost always feel that thing. if you do too, hi5 bro.

do you have friends ? or a community ? ever feel like you’re being unwanted ? maybe you’re getting a loneliness, note that lonely is different than being alone. Loneliness could happen in a very very crowded place like when you’re waiting for the train to comes up, when you’re in traffic jam, in class, or even in your own house. see, loneliness happens when we feel anxious feelings about a lack of connection or communication with others.It could happen by emotional things, or maybe social events, or even mental state.

People can experience loneliness for many reasons, like the shortage of friendship relations during childhood or teenage, or the physical lack of meaningful people around a person. At the same time, loneliness may be a symptom of another social or psychological problem, such as depression.a lot of teen experience loneliness after a breakup, for the people who already married,a divorce or loss of any important long-term relationship. In these problems, it may come both from the loss of a specific person and from the withdrawal from social circles lead to by the event or the correlated sadness.

There is a small thin wall between lonely and alone. Loneliness is happens cause lack of connection between relation, while the other, alone is caused by lack of contact with other people, like i said, a person could feel lonely in a crowded place, while instead one can be alone in their own favourite place and not feel lonely at all. Being alone is not that bad, for example people who is ten to being alone could explore their creativity to the max.

Solitude has been linked with melancholy, and is thus a jeopardy factor for suicide,i.e. comities or altruistic conceptions, as the main reason for what he called egoistic suicide.In adults, solitude is a major precipitant of dejection and alcoholism. People who are convivially isolated may report poor slumber quality, and thus have diminished restorative processes. Solitude has additionally been linked with a Schizoid character type in which one may optically discern the world differently and experience gregarious alienation, described as the self in expatriation.

There is a way to avoid this, you know… like, Challenge yourself to take the initiative in convivial relationships. Don’t wait for people to approach you: you should approach them. Ask the person if they optate to chat or get a coffee. You must always show interest in other people afore they will show interest in you, if they ever do.Work on ameliorating and making yourself blissful. Conventionally, when we’re devoting most of our time to other people, we incline to neglect ourselves. If you’re going through a period of solitude, capitalize on it by doing the things that you optate to do for yourself. This is a sublime opportunity and you should be blissful!

This last paragraph is not important as other paragraphs, but hey. i’m just trying to help other who feels the same like me, i’m one of the people who is having a stress by a loneliness. just for your information, i have stopped coming to my community’s meeting, because… i don’t really feel accepted there, sad. i know. although i love them for being what they are, i still love them, i still have a lot of memories there, and even if i don’t attend mandatory meeting anymore, i still have 1 more year to be with them, and i decided to use that span of time to the fullest. i don’t have to tell what the name of my community right ? yes. thank you.                                                                          and also, if you ever feel so alone, contact me ! maybe i could help ! here. i’ll give you my personal’s chat messaging accounts ! 🙂

LINE : Basyandira

Whatsapp : (+62)83897780540

Snapchat : Basyadira

this three are the apps that i opened regularly when i was bored, i open it up on my phone mostly, so i could respond ASAP. anyway, today’s story end here. i hope you have a good friends and have a nice week ! bye ! 😀


5 Fakta tentang (ergh) Cinta.

Cuih, i know. i recently have a (good for me) bad breakup. which is really really rough at those times, and i think i wanna share something i learn from it. I always believe that quotes that says “You come into my life, either you’re a blessing or a lesson.” and this one, is a whole big big big lesson. let’s goooh. Indonesia ya bahasanya huahahah


1. Hubungan serius, itu ada di dunia fauna.

Meskipun kita sering menganggap diri kita sebagai spesies yang setia, kita bukan satu-satunya dalam kerajaan hewan. Serigala, angsa, burung bangkai hitam, elang laut dan bahkan rayap  cari jodoh untuk seumur hidup.

2. Cuman butuh waktu 4 (5 deh tergantung mata lo picek apa kagak) buat suka sama orang.

Jika Anda ingin membuat kesan yang baik pada seseorang, Anda hanya punya sekitar 4 menit untuk melakukannya. Hal ini diyakini bahwa ia memiliki hubungan yang lebih dalam dengan bahasa tubuh Anda, nada dan kecepatan suara Anda ada nilai yang ber beda beda di awal pertemuan.

3.Kalo misal ada 2 sejoli yang tatap mata, denyut jantungnya bakalan sama.

Beberapa riset luar biasa telah menemukan bahwa pasangan yang sedang jatuh cinta dan ada ikatan dalam hubungan mereka menyinkronkan denyut jantung mereka setelah menatap mata satu sama lain selama tiga menit.

4.Efek Jatuh cinta sama kayak lu ngisep kokain.

Jatuh cinta (katanya) seperti ngisep kokain, karena kedua pengalaman mempengaruhi otak sama dan memicu sensasi berupa euforia. Penelitian menemukan bahwa jatuh cinta menghasilkan beberapa bahan kimia euforia yang merangsang 12 area otak pada saat yang sama, Persis kayak kokain.

5. Berpelukan bisa meredakan sakit.

Oxytocin, yang disebut cinta atau hormon berpelukan, yang dihasilkan selama pelukan atau berpelukan. Hormon ini muncul dalam otak, indung telur dan testis dan diduga terlibat dalam proses ikatan. Penelitian telah menemukan bahwa dosis oksitosin menurun sakit kepala secara signifikan, dan untuk beberapa rasa sakit hilang sepenuhnya setelah 4 jam. It is definitely worth it untuk mencoba berpelukan sebelum nyoba minum bahan kimia dan pil.


I think that’s all. i actually wanna start a gaming channel in youtube, but my mic is broken recently and i don’t have any mic for now so i think i will try to do gaming channel that plays without webcam. wish me luck guys