People were uploading their relationship moments on instagram,path, or any other social media. The biggest example you can check right now is the Glen Alinskie & Chelsea Olivia instagram feed, From their travels, their night-outs, and even their wedding are in their instagram profiles. They let it all out for the public, so their fans could see their love life.
For me a PDA is always acceptable. Sharing the love for the people around us is never a bad thing in my opinion, and it is a thousand times better then spreading the speech of hate, anger,etc.
Some couples that keeping their relationship so secret isn’t a bad idea either. Well i couldn’t give you an example but, so many celebs from hollywood or maybe korean stars who keeps their love life so secret that nobody knows that they’re living their happiest moment together without a public disturbance.
now the question is…
should you/i/we keep our relationship for ourselves,
should you/i/we/ let our relationship for others to see how happy can you be in a healthy relationship ?
Let’s talk about the plus minus about these 2 options we could pick. First of all, the keep-between-us-relationship. Now let’s think about positive things we could take from a private relationships shall we ? we could pick the most simple thing from it, which is you will NOT have a pressure from other individuals, such as fans, friends, family, ex (?), etc. Other than unnecessary pressure, you could also be safe from any kind of gossip, since you didn’t let many people know that you have a special relationship, you won’t get many rumours or gossips about you two.
A bonus point if somehow it ends up in marriage, people will be in kind of a shock (?) seeing your relationship successfully go to the final phase, without any publicity from any of the social media.
Now let’s talk about the PDA in social media.
for me sharing your relationship in the social media is a brave thing to do.
Everyone who have an access to your profile will see the relationship that you shared to the internet world, Your mum, your dad, your best friend, your friends, your enemies, your dogs, your evil ex, everyone. You showed that you’re currently happy with the new person that comes into your life, That you didn’t afraid to let people know that you’re now have a new relationship you can build on.
You are not afraid of failure, why ? because if your relationship fails the probability of people who knows about your relationship will notice that your love life somehow didnt go the right way, the total opposite thing that is going to happen if you let it be a privacy between you two. And that’s why i think it was a brave thing to do.
As i was saying, sharing love to others is always a thousand times better than spreading the speech of hate. and these are just 1 or 2 bits of benefits you could have, there are so many other reasons why it’s okay to let your relationship be public or private.
For me personally, i would like to stay in the middle from these 2 options, there’s black and white, yin and yang, x and y,you and me, us. Someone said to me “Sesuatu yang dipaksakan itu tidak baik” and it will never be. So, something that is too much like someone who is posting a video about yourself crying over such a simple problems and calling it a vlog, in my opinion it was not a bright thing to do. So what i’m going to do is i’ll share what people might need to know such as, anniversary, birthday, etc and let people see that i have a happy relationship.
So i think that’s all from me, for now. I don’t know when the next post will arrive but just in case… stay tune. Ciao !